As age increases, various functions and metabolism of the body will decline. Desire and need for sex can also decrease. But this does not mean that there is no sexual desire, or that people in perimenopause or menopause do not need sex. You can have a healthy, rewarding sex life at any age. The good news is that below we’re going to provide you with a few ways to have a better sex experience.
What is perimenopause?
Before officially entering menopause, you will enter perimenopause. Perimenopause is a transitional period. During this stage, your number of ovulations will decrease, but you will still be fertile and can become pregnant. Although your menstrual cycle will be missing and become irregular. Many people will enter this stage around the age of 40, but the time and intensity will be different for each person. The vagina can also become dry and the mood can be a roller coaster ride.
What is menopause?
When your last menstrual period ends, it means you have officially entered menopause, and some people feel disappointed and depressed because they are no longer within the range of childbearing years. But menopause is not all bad. It still has its own benefits. We will no longer feel the discomfort and pain caused by menstruation, as well as the discomfort and migraines before menstruation. You can also have more time to focus more on your own happiness and understand your own preferences.
How to have better sex during menopause and perimenopause?
1. Open communication and communication
Are you dissatisfied with your current sex life? If you want to change your current situation, or if you want a better sexual experience and try new sexual ideas. All of this is based on communication, so it is important to have sincere communication with your partner. Have an open communication with your partner and choose a suitable time and place to make both parties feel relaxed and comfortable. Maybe you feel ashamed to talk about sex due to traditional concepts. Don't worry, this is a normal phenomenon. Only by talking about sex with your partner can you have a better sex life and experience.
Before you start talking to your partner about sex, be prepared that it may not be easy. But don't worry too much. After all, the starting point for a better sex life is good, but it is important for both parties to maintain a sex-positive state.
2. Broaden the definition of sex
Broadening your definition of sex can better allow you to enjoy the pleasure of sex and break some inherent impressions. Not only penetrative sex can be called sex, foreplay, kissing, touching, and even hugging. Any intimate behavior can be called sex. Especially for women in perimenopause and menopause, penetrative sexual intercourse may not bring them pleasure, but it may also cause pain, because the vaginal lubrication is not enough, which will cause them It may cause discomfort and may lead to loss of interest in sex and avoidance of sex.
Therefore, it is important to broaden the definition of sex, take care of each other's feelings during sex, understand each other's sexual purposes, and pay attention to each other's sexual experience.
3. Adjust your mood
Women in perimenopause and menopause may experience ups and downs in mood, easily feel anxious, etc. We can practice in some ways, such as meditation, breathing exercises and meditation, to maintain a better mood, focus on the present, and enjoy sex better.
4. Extend foreplay
Foreplay is a very important way for women to feel sexual pleasure. Therefore, you can also extend the foreplay to have a better sexual experience. At the same time, it can also help the vagina produce lubrication, promote sexual arousal, and allow the body to enter a better state.
5. Try new sexual activities
If you are bored or tired of your daily routine, you might as well try new sexual activities, such as oral sex, exploring sexual fantasies, BDSM, etc. Exploring sexual activities can not only stimulate each other's sexual desire and excitement, but also allow you to have more fun. Good sexual stimulation adds interest to sex life.
6. Use sex toys
Adding sex toys to sex is a very wise choice. It can not only enhance each other's sexual experience, but sex toys can also be used as auxiliary tools to make the body better sexually aroused and have a more pleasant stimulation. Of course sex toys can also be used during sexual intercourse. It can also help partners reach orgasm and reduce the orgasm gap between the sexes. Moreover, sex toys are safe, healthy and hygienic, making them a product worth investing in. However, remember to clean sex toys before and after use. If you don’t know what category to choose, my recommendation is a vibrator, which can free your hands, save some energy, and enjoy better enjoyment.
7. Use lubricating oil
As we age, the lubrication of vaginal secretions becomes insufficient, leading to discomfort and pain during sexual intercourse. You can use generous and long-lasting lubrication, my recommendation is, use silicone-based lube. It can be kept lubricated for a long time and will not dry out easily, but it cannot be used with silicone sex toys. If you want a lubricant with a wider range of applications, I recommend a water-based lubricant, which is also more suitable for sensitive skin.